Today’s Mantra: The way you think the story is going to play out… is probably how it’s going to play out.

So you’ve tried to lose weight before, and ended up gaining it back. So you’ve lost your motivation – again – and you feel like you’re never going to get it back. So you’ve dieted, then binged, and feel like your goals aren’t ever going to be attained.

So the-eff what.

Setbacks are normal, but at all times YOU are in control of what happens. Far too often, people fall off the wagon and feel so badly, that they end up trashing the wagon instead of getting back on. Self-sabotage is real: it’s that moment when you feel like nothing you do matters and where you feel the effort is no longer worth it. Most of the time, it’s not US that have failed: we just haven’t made the right changes, or tweaks to our methods. But when we internalize that failure, we create a perfect storm: we feel down about ourselves, give up, and end up sabotaging our goals. Instead of taking a look at what we could do differently, we learn nothing.

The difference between successful people and non-successful people is the willingness to keep trying, even in the face of failure. Nothing is set in stone, it’s never too late, and it’s called a journey for a reason. Get back on the wagon as soon as you can, and don’t beat yourself up. Use that energy to make real changes that you can live with, that are more realistic, and that address your specific circumstances and problem areas.